Kids

Rethink Childcare For Your Group - 7 Ideas

Children in group are a blessing but also add complexity to healthy group meetings.

We are a family, and one of the joys of doing Community Group is not just adults connecting, but our whole families building friendships together.

If this is a tension for you, consider these 3 tips and 1 of the Childcare options below:

3 Childcare Tips:

1. Assign A Childcare Coordinator

  • Usually this is a parent who’s really organized! It’s not his or her job to do all the childcare, just to keep it organized.

  • The goal is always for the entire group to be sharing the load of caring well for the children.

2. Make House Rules Wherever You Meet

  • Talk with the host(s) regularly about this. If you rotate homes then each new home has a new set of house rules.

  • Some people don’t want children in the bedrooms, while others don’t care.

  • Communicate clearly the expectations to all the children and parents as well as whoever is caring for the kids. 

3. Ensure Safety of Children

  • When sharing childcare among your group, having 2 adults present at all times with kids, ensures accountability and safety for children.

  • Have parents take their own kids to the bathroom and change their own kids diapers, instead of a childcare person.

  • Have childcare take place in a room with windows and that is more public.

7 Childcare Options:

1. Rotate Between Men's, Women's, & All-Together Nights

  • Groups that do a 3 week rotation, only need to provide childcare 1 out of every 3 weeks, on the nights the whole group meets together.

  • On the men's and women's nights, families take care of their own childcare.

  • It’s important you regularly do whole family times (men, women, children) to maintain connection with everyone. 

2. Take Turns Caring For Children

  • Part of being in community is sharing the load of childcare, even for group members with out children.

  • Rotate between 2 men and 2 women from your group.

  • Instead of assigning a couple to do childcare, having 2 men or 2 women, gives those 2 people a chance to connect.

  • Having 2 adults also ensures accountability and safety for the children in that they are not left alone with 1 adult.

3. Hire A Sitter to Watch The Children

  • Often this could be teenagers.

  • It’s important to explain expectations to them and make clear any house rules.

  • EVERYONE should help finance this – even those without kids because we are all making this possible:

  • Group members can Venmo or give a cash donation to help cover expenses

  • If there isn’t enough cash coming in, then bring it up and challenge the group (not just those with children) to do more.

  • If you have more than enough, just keep the extra for future weeks.

4. Ask A Responsible Older Sibling From The Group

  • Everything from option #3 usually applies, though you might pay them less.

  • This can lead to tension if there are problems with their performance but deal with it directly.

  • For safety, it is wise to have 2 responsible sitters in the room with the kids at all times.

5. Take An Offering For Home Baby Sitters

  • If just 1 or 2 families in your small group have children you can decide to make donations each trimester to help them care for the expense of hiring a sitter in their home.

  • It’s unrealistic for most families to absorb the full expense on their own – but in some cases this is a good option as long as you are dealing with just 1 or maybe 2 families. 

6. Have Childcare In A Different Home Nearby

  • This can often be a good option if you can arrange it for children that have trouble leaving their parents alone or if you have a LOT of kids.

  • Give the sitters everyone’s cell numbers or the number for the host home and if there’s a problem Mom or Dad are just a call away!

  • This can really work well with 2 groups that might share a sitting home.

7. Don’t Do Any Childcare

  • If everyone in your group has free childcare available (family, older kids), then these groups can leave their children at home when they meet each week.

  • Some groups don’t do childcare because everyone in the group has children that are older or perhaps the group is made up of single adults without children or young married couples with no children yet.

  • But once children are involved it is important that you make a plan that makes it possible for these people to be involved with your small group. 

How Can We Help You?

How is your group going? Are there any challenges or issues you or your group are struggling with? Reach out to your coach to setup a meeting. We'd love to help!

6 Ideas To Make The Most of The Spring Group Trimester...While Social Distancing

Are you ready for this?

Our last trimester of the Community Group year is about to begin (April 12 - May 23). At the beginning of the groups year, none of us could have predicted it would end like this.

While Community Group members often begin to check-out near the end of the group year, this season feels different. Actually, it doesn't just feel different, this season of social distancing restrictions is different. It is hard to predict the future, so as we look for the best ways to care for and connect with our groups under COVID-19 restrictions, we are taking it one week at a time, one day at a time.

As we prepare for the next 6 weeks of group, here are:

6 Ideas To Make The Most of The Spring Group Trimester

1. Continue to meet...online.

Many of you have already been connecting with your group online with a variety of video platforms and have worked through some of the kinks. If you still have questions about how meet with your group online, contact your coach, or check out our "How To Lead An Online Group" page. We want to help every group figure this out!

2. Meet for a shorter amount of time.

A typical in-person community group meeting usually lasts for 90 minutes to 2 hours. That is long for an online group meeting. The sweet spot for an online group is somewhere between 45-60 minutes.

3. Continue to discuss the sermon.

You may be wondering, what should my group meeting look like online? We would suggest your group continues to use the same format of an in-person meeting. Spend 10-15 minutes catching up, spend about 30 minutes discussing the sermon, and then wrap up by sharing prayer requests and having someone pray.

Some of you have asked, "Where are the sermon discussion questions?" 

Our Northridge website has been updated with pertinent info in this COVID season, so the way you may normally navigate to find the questions has changed a bit. You can always find the sermon discussion questions in the same place right here on our Group Leaders website. They are posted each Sunday morning at 8:00am.

4. Update Your Group Description.

As people look for a group on the online Group Finder, please make sure to update your Group description on Group Vitals to let people know you are meeting online instead of in-person.

How do you update your description? Watch THIS short video. 

5. Include your kids.

Say what? How is that supposed to work? 

While Community Group meetings are designed for adults to experience Biblical Community, those with kids at home also develop relationships with the other kids in group. 

With groups unable to meet together in-person, your kids may actually be missing group more than you!

Here is one way some groups have helped their kids connect with each other during this season:

Instead of having the men and women meet all-together in one online meeting, they have separate men's and women's nights. At the beginning of those meetings, you can take the first 5-15 minutes for the kids to connect, be silly, see each other's faces, and talk, and then have either the man or the woman in the house watch the kids while the other connects in their meeting.

6. Change it up.

While we are encouraging groups to function as normal with a typical community group schedule of connecting, sermon discussion, and prayer; taking a week or two to change it up will keep your group from growing weary or stale. 

This may be especially true if you met for all 3 weeks of the trimester break.

Here are several ways we have seen groups try something new to connect during this season:

  • Playing games together online with the website: https://jackbox.tv/.

  • Doing a Netflix Watch Party: www.netflixparty.com/.

  • Delivering/Hiding Easter eggs in different family's yards (w/ their approval).

  • Doing separate video chats with the men and women to dive a little deeper.

  • Sharing short video messages together with apps like the Marco Polo app

What would you add to the list? What has your group tried? Email me and share your ideas. I'd love to pass them along to other groups!

We are praying for you as we begin a new group trimester! Please let us know if you have any questions or there is anything you need!

Thanks for helping people still experience Biblical Community in these unique times!